Dorks are people that were not so popular ever and want to be part of the "in" crowd, they may not be very intellectual and have no clue about how to dress. There is a chance that you will see them wearing socks with sandals because of a completely logical reason like the buckles on their Jesus sandals hurt the top of their feet. Dorks are not necessarily even obvious until you spend some time with them.
Geeks and Nerds are very similar in my book and they can be very hot. Basically you can spot a Geek a mile away, they wear t-shirts that say things like "Hack Naked", now if you didn't know better you would think this was a cyber criminal but it is actually a charity. Kind of scary that I know this huh? Geeks do not try to be something they are not, they are overall pretty confident because they have always been Geeks. Geeks are very smart and usually very funny in an odd sort of way, they are pretty oblivious to things around them as well, and when you call them on being a Geek they own it. These are some of the reasons why I totally <3 Geeks, they would hate that symbol by the way.
I had a date last week with a guy that I will describe as an uber Dork. I suggested dinner in a nice trendy restaurant, he was twenty minutes late due to traffic. First I started with drinking water and than after he started in on past dates with other women I switched to wine. We had previously agreed that we were not going to talk about anyone that we were seeing because I just wanted to casually date, I am not looking to start a relationship with anyone.
First he started by telling me that there was a woman he had dated sitting at the bar, she does the accounting for the restaurant we were at. When he came back from the restroom he mentioned that he said hello to her and told her that he was there on a date, she kept shooting him dirty looks before she went out the back door to leave. There were also other references to women he had dated in the past and how he had his heart broken numerous times. I suppose that most women would jump in and play up the "I am not like that" card but I must have missed the memo. I reiterated the fact that I just wanted to socially date and have fun.
So we both enjoyed the food and I was entertained with with his "dorkish" behaviors while I drank my very generous glass of wine (made a mental note to go back for more wine and the Chefs plate). We were finishing up when he pulled his wallet out to pay and I commented that he had a silver wallet. Now before I tell you the explanation of why his wallet was silver let me describe this man.
We had met for coffee previous to meeting for dinner and we have mutual friends, both times he came directly from work and wears suits to the office. He has a high position in local government and has never been married or has any children, he likes to say that he is a committed bachelor. None of this bothers me; although, typically government workers bore me, I used to be one and really have no desire to date one. I suppose that most women would see this man and figure they could "hook" him, he has his own house and a housekeeper? None of this impresses me, and I am guessing he is not used to this reaction. So back to the wallet.
When he pulled his wallet out to pay I noticed that it was silver and was quite shocked that this conservative Dork would have a silver wallet. When I asked why, he told me it was a gift from his father and that it was made out of stainless steel. I was intrigued that this 41 year old man had received a stainless steel wallet from his father, he must have sensed this and informed me of the safety points of the wallet. Apparently, there are devices that can scan your credit card information when you walk past someone and the stainless steel wallet prevents this from happening. So I believed him and was wondering why more people didn't have stainless steel wallets, why wasn't this all over the media? Where the hell was Dateline with this information????? Did I mention that the wine came in really generous portions and that I had two glasses?
So the date was over and he was walking me to my car when I noticed a parking ticket, these parking tickets seem attracted to my car when I am in this part of town. Needless to say there were not any fireworks with the goodbye but it was appropriate for a first real date and saying goodbye on the sidewalk in the middle of a very urban neighborhood.
Later that night I spoke with a friend of mine who is a professional hacker (legally) and a HUGE Geek, so he knows a thing or two about security. Apparently there is such a device that would steal your credit card information but you have to basically have it on your pocket and you need a specific type of credit card for it to be vulnerable. The stainless steel wallet would protect your information if you are under such conditions.
This was my first official date out in public to a "grown up" dinner, I am sure that there will be a lot more and I suppose that it was fairly innocent. I suppose it was one of those things I can look back on and appreciate, I mean really, how many people get to go out with a guy with a stainless steel wallet? I did!
~Love and Light
